Why Grief Can Increase Libido
Grief can increase sexual desire as well as reduce it. Explore why libido may rise after bereavementand why this response is neither wrong nor unusual.
A Simple Framework for Deciding What You Want Now
Not sure whether you want sex, companionship, a relationship, or space? This articleoffers a thoughtful framework for deciding what feels right now.
Privacy, Judgement and Keeping Your Choices to Yourself
Not everyone needs to know your choices around sex and intimacy after bereavement.
This article explores privacy, judgement, and emotional boundaries.
Feeling Attractive Again After Loss
Feeling attractive again after bereavement can be emotional and complicated. This article explores body confidence, desire, and identity after loss.
When Casual Becomes Complicated
Casual connections usually begin with the promise of simplicity. They are meant to be clear, contained, and free from the expectations that come with a relationship. But simplicity is not always permanent. A situation that once felt easy can start to feel heavier, less defined, or emotionally uneven. When that happens, it can be difficult to know whether the problem is the arrangement itself or the way it has begun to change.
Choosing Autonomy Over Commitment After Loss
After loss, there is often an assumption that the next meaningful step must involve opening yourself up to love again.
How to End a Casual Relationship Cleanly
Casual relationships are often described as simple, but that simplicity tends to depend on how clearly they begin and how clearly they end. When endings are left vague, even the most uncomplicated situation can become difficult to navigate. What often creates confusion is not the ending itself, but the way it is handled.
How to Say No Without Guilt
One of the most difficult things for many people is not beginning something, but stopping it. Saying no can feel straightforward in theory, yet much harder in practice, especially when there is already some momentum behind the situation. You may have agreed to meet, expressed interest, or simply found yourself in a moment where changing your mind feels more awkward than going along with what has already been set in motion.
Online Dating Safety Checklist for Widows
Online dating can feel very different after loss, not simply because the landscape has changed, but because you have changed within it. Even if you have dated before, returning to it after bereavement often brings a different kind of awareness. You may be more protective of your time, more selective about what you want, and less willing to tolerate uncertainty that would once have felt ordinary. That is not a problem. It is useful.
Red Flags in Casual Dating After Loss
When you are stepping into casual dating after loss, it can be tempting to focus only on whether you feel ready. That matters, but it is only part of the picture. The person you are stepping towards matters just as much, and one of the most useful things you can develop early is the ability to notice what feels off before it becomes something harder to untangle.
Emotional vs Physical Readiness After Loss
Readiness is often talked about as though it is singular. You are either ready or you are not. But for many widows, this way of thinking does not reflect reality. What they experience instead is a split between different kinds of readiness, where the body may feel open to intimacy while the emotional part of the experience remains uncertain, or vice versa.
How to Set Boundaries in Casual Relationships After Loss
What makes casual relationships feel complicated is rarely the situation itself. More often, it is the lack of clarity around it. When expectations are not clearly defined, things can begin to shift in ways that neither person intended, creating a sense of confusion that can be difficult to resolve once it has taken hold.
Why Widows Experience Sexual Desire After Loss (And Why It’s Completely Normal)
There is a moment many widows don’t expect.
It doesn’t arrive neatly. It doesn’t wait for grief to settle or for life to feel stable again.
It appears, often quietly, sometimes suddenly, in the middle of everything else.
Turning Up the Heat: Top 5 Saucy Films to Ignite Your Night
Embracing Intimacy After Loss: A Gentle Guide by Angela Vossen
Rebuilding emotional and physical connection after the loss of a partner is a deeply personal journey—one often filled with hope, hesitation, and healing. In this heartfelt guide, relationship and sex coach Angela Vossen (from sextasy) offers supportive, practical steps to help you reconnect with your body, open up to new relationships, and embrace intimacy at your own pace.
Drawing from Chapter 2’s research and her coaching experience, Angela shares how to navigate guilt, rebuild trust, and rediscover your spark—with compassion and courage.
Ready to take your next small step?
Read the full guide and join the conversation in the Chapter 2 forum.
Embracing Intimacy After Loss: Your Guide to Rebuilding Connection
Embracing Intimacy After Loss: A Gentle Guide by Angela Vossen
Rebuilding emotional and physical connection after the loss of a partner is a deeply personal journey—one often filled with hope, hesitation, and healing. In this heartfelt guide, relationship and sex coach Angela Vossen (from sextasy) offers supportive, practical steps to help you reconnect with your body, open up to new relationships, and embrace intimacy at your own pace.
Drawing from Chapter 2’s research and her coaching experience, Angela shares how to navigate guilt, rebuild trust, and rediscover your spark—with compassion and courage.
Ready to take your next small step?
Read the full guide and join the conversation in the Chapter 2 forum.
From Hacienda to Heartbreak…to Healing
In her rawest and most revealing conversation yet, Nicky joins Sarah Knight on the It’s Got Pockets podcast to unpack the unimaginable…losing the love of her life, navigating solo parenting through grief, getting sober, and rediscovering purpose in the aftermath of heartbreak.
From the darkest moments to rebuilding with humour, grit, and honesty, Nicky shares what it really means to begin again, at any age.
If you’ve ever wondered how to keep going when life falls apart, this story is for you.
Unleash Your Desire
Last month, we launched Desire – our anthology of anonymous stories to celebrate the raw, unfiltered experiences of longing, often known as widow’s fire. What started slow has been gaining […]
Grief Is A Thief
..but it doesn’t steal everything Widowhood is often painted in shades of gray, restrained, quiet, dignified. But real life is messy just like desire. Beneath the comfortable clothes and after […]
A Guilt-Free Guide to Rekindling Your Spark
Let’s be honest, grief doesn’t extinguish the fire inside us. It might dim for a while, but it never truly goes out. And for some of us, it’s never burned […]
I’ll Take an Aubergine with That: The Modern Widow’s Guide to Emojis and Dating Jargon
Whether you’re cautiously dipping your toes in or diving back in with confidence, dating in 2025 can feel like a foreign world of emojis and sci-fi-sounding terms. Confused? Don’t worry, […]
How to Get the Most Out of Your WidowsFire Membership
At WidowsFire, we are creating a safe and secure space to explore intimacy in grief.
We’ve put together a few helpful tips to ensure you get the most benefit from your membership, for both Basic and Premium Access members.
Navigating the Dating World – Beware of Romance Scammers
Entering the world of dating can be both exciting and nerve-wracking. While meeting new people and potentially finding a little fun is your goal, it’s essential to be cautious and aware of potential pitfalls, such as dating scammers. We’ll explore the ins and outs of online dating safety, focusing on the importance of recognising and avoiding dating scams. We’ll also introduce a powerful campaign that sheds light on this issue.
New to the world of online dating? We reveal the dating jargon you need to know
With more and more people turning to online dating in the wake of the digital era, the number of online dating apps, too, is growing.
If you’re navigating the dating world and want to brush up on your dating lingo, here are some of the terms and top dating jargon you’ll need to know for 2024.
Breaking the Taboo
Here at WidowsFire, we aim to break the taboo and openly discuss the reality of sex while grieving. Losing your soulmate and lover does not necessarily mean losing your libido. In fact, quite the opposite can happen, and your sex drive may go into overdrive – akin to being a hormonal teenager again, minus the acne!
Finding a Spark on WidowsFire
Now your profile is complete, it’s time for the fun part… a little window shopping.
You need to search for members you think are hot, have similar desires and interests, and work geographically for you.
What makes the perfect WidowsFire profile
Here at WidowsFire, we are creating a confidential and safe space for you explore no strings, uncomplicated, flirty fun with people who understand.
We understand that you may have never tried online dating or had a casual no strings encounter before. It can be a daunting and a confusing minefield at times.
So where do you start?
No Strings Attached Fun
Losing a life partner is a devastating experience that can make the idea of dating and having sex with a new partner seem daunting. Many widows and widowers find themselves in a situation where they haven’t been on a date or had sex with anyone other than their late partner for many years or even decades.